Monday 29 July 2013

I CAN'T CARE MORE ABOUT YOUR HEALTH THAN YOU DO



“How do I convince my husband/wife/kids/parents/sisters/niece to Eat By Design?”

Before I answer this, I invite you to answer these questions.

First, do they want to Eat By Design?
And second, why is it important to you that they Eat By Design?

I struggled with this for a really long time. I was raised in a house where convenience and price were the two determining factors as to what I ate for dinner, not principles. If a food was easy to make and on sale, I ate it – regardless as to whether that food moved me towards or away from health. I recognize that those decisions were made with the best available information my parents had. You don’t know what you don’t know.

I haven’t always eaten By Design. In fact, up until two years ago I was vegan. And before that I advocated for whole wheat and low fat. So, I get it – my family was more than confused when I began encouraging them to Eat By Design. After a year of resistance I stopped myself and asked the two questions I prompted you with earlier.

Do they want to Eat By Design? Yes. Every member of my family had expressed authentic interest in learning more about it – but because of whatever limiting belief or excuse, they hadn’t implemented it in their life…yet.

Why is it important to me that they Eat By Design? It’s important to me because they are important to me. I love my family and want them to have a healthy, happy and purposeful life. I believe that Eating By Design, in addition to meeting your other requirements, is the best strategy to achieve this. But I recognize that I can’t care more about their health than they do.

Does my family Eat By Design now? Yes – some of them. The rest – they’re getting there. And they will get there. Or they won’t. Whatever they choose is their decision.

It has been a process – a challenging one for both parties. I am proud that they understand what the body requires to be healthy and have taken action. They have taken responsibility for their own lives.

So here’s what you need to do.

  1. If you are trying to convince someone you care about Eat By Design, stop. “But if I know Eating By Design is good for everyone and good forever, why shouldn’t I force someone to do it? I know it’s good for them.” Because force removes choice from the equation. When you remove your ability to think, you lose the right to your own life. You want the people you care about to make good decisions for themselves, not just because you said they should. 

  1. Stick to your principles. Educate others why you have chosen to Eat By Design and why you think they should do the same, but accept that the choice is theirs.

  1. Lead by example. Individuals automatically gravitate towards people that they see as leaders.

  1. Join us at our next Eat By Design seminar – and bring a guest. You may find it hard to explain why you do what you do, so let us do the work. Click for more details about attending a seminar in London or Ottawa.

Wednesday 24 July 2013

Integrity & Treats


This post comes on the heels of the blog I put up last week about YOLO. One concept that is kind of woven in there that I didn’t specifically talk about is how we handle treats and special occasions.

This is a tough topic for a lot of people, myself included.


When I was growing up my parents could get me to do ANYTHING for food. I was a little Hoover. I wanted ALL THE FOOD, all the time. I have noticed a similar trend in my 5-year-old niece. You can turn that kid from a complete heathen into an angel through the mere mention of dessert.

Sounds familiar, right?

As children, our parents bribe us and reward us with food.  As adults, we do it to ourselves. After decades of conditioning, it is second nature.

Got promoted -- Go out for a cocktails to celebrate.
Had a great work out -- Earned a chocolate bar.
Celebrated a birthday -- Deserve birthday cake.
Stuck to the 30 day challenge -- Celebrate with pizza.
Made it through a hard day at work -- Haagen-Dazs is warranted.

There are lots of diet gurus who cite the benefits to this. They may suggest that if you have something to look forward to it will help you stay on track.

I have fallen into this trap before. In my dieting days, I often gave myself a “cheat night” or allocated an off track meal. If you have ever done this, I’m sure you can relate to how much harder it is to get back on the bandwagon after you have leaped off into a pool of french fries, ice cream and grilled cheese sandwiches.

Another confession from my past is that I have justified dessert on the grounds of it being Thanksgiving… Christmas… Easter… First day of school... Last day of school…Date night... Movie night…Friday night … Sunny Out...Rainy out… Snowing…

Are you starting to see the trend here? Everyday can be a special day if you want it to be. A once-in-a-while indulgence can very easily become an everyday occurrence that sabotages your goals and hurts your health.

The big issue here is your beliefs surrounding food.

If food is one of the only ways that you reward yourself for working hard or achieving success, it becomes loaded with all of the feelings that come along with these events. Emotional eating happens just as much with positive emotions as it does with negative ones.

I have spent a lot of time reflecting and journaling on my beliefs around food. I encourage you to do the same. Toxic food is toxic food. Whether in the form of pizza or a cupcake, whether you eat it once a year or once a day, it is TOXIC in your body.

I love my body. I want the best health possible for today and tomorrow and for my whole life. “Treating” myself with toxic food should not make me happy. This subtle but very important change in my beliefs has helped me enormously in my By Design journey.

Sometimes I am still tempted to eat a huge piece of chocolate cake on a ‘special occasion’ but it is becoming easier and easier to tell myself that it is not actually what I want - and to BELIEVE it.

Next time you do something that you feel guilty about, such as splurging on some ‘off track’ food item. Investigate that feeling. Why do you feel guilty? I guarantee it is because you have done something that goes against your values.

For me, eating junk food violates two of my highest values: My health and my integrity.  It is much more important to me that I am healthy and that I live in integrity with all of the things that I talk about and recommend to other people.

I have found other ways to reward myself for good behavior. Instead of getting personal with Ben and Jerry I now spend alone time with a good book, snuggle with my kitten, take a bubble bath, have a date night with my amazing boyfriend, call a good friend, spend a day on the beach, take a walk in the woods, get a pedicure.. You get the idea. 

I get WAY more enjoyment out of doing things that I love. Plus, these activities add value and happiness to my life and health.

What are things in your life that you could replace food rewards with?

Wednesday 17 July 2013

YOLO


I saw a post on Facebook this week that was a link to a BuzzFeed blog about the top “30 signs you’re almost 30.” It was a pretty funny blog.. most of it was spot on. Reason #21 “Teen slang makes you viscerally angry.” Was accompanied with this photo:


Ah .. YOLO.

I have to agree. This is one teen slang that does make me viscerally angry, but not just because its teen slang.

The first time I ‘heard’ it was in a Facebook status:
 “Gonna party hard tonight! #YOLO #Drunk” (also viscerally angry over the use of hash tags on Facebook. But that’s a completely different story.)

I had to turn to my good friend, Google, for a definition of this new mystery term.

Turns out YOLO is an acronym meaning “You Only Live Once.” How clever.

I have found a disheartening trend with the use of this phrase..? Word..? Saying..? Whatever.

YOLO is generally used as a rationalization for doing something totally irresponsible, plain stupid, or otherwise ‘naughty.’

Tell me if any of these scenarios sound familiar:

 “I probably shouldn’t go out tonight and do 8 shots of tequila. But YOLO! Let’s DO IT!”

“I should be eating healthy but that chocolate cake looks amazing and hey- YOLO. Right?!”

“I can’t really afford to go to Vegas and spend every cent I have on hookers and blow..oh well.. YOLO!” 

Okay this last one might be a slight exaggeration. But you get the point.

Why is it that the idea that “you only live once” is a green light to damage your body, spend money on stupid things and avoid responsibility?

Not to be Negative Nancy…. But SERIOUSLY?!

Here’s what I think of when I think YOLO:
-       I have ONE shot at this life. One shot to be the best version of me, to spend my days living my purpose and to be generally as awesome as possible.

-       I have one body. One chance to live in a way that doesn’t add up to obesity, diabetes, cancer or liver failure.

-       I have one opportunity to make a good first impression on people that I might have to see in the morning or in another social or professional setting.

-       I have one opportunity to raise happy, healthy children.

-       I have ONE life and IF I BLOW IT, I can’t take it back.

I am definitely not perfect. I have definitely done things that were irresponsible, stupid or otherwise naughty. But I do not justify those actions it as moments when I got to “live a little.”

Why is it that if you are being responsible, healthy and making good decisions you’re boring and rigid?

Who decided that ‘being human’ and ‘living life to the fullest’ had to mean partying, boozing and eating crappy food?

If you only live once, the best moments should be the ones where you are expressing the most life, not the ones that bring you closer to death.

This week try to eat all By Design, get in an extra work out, spend more time out side or think about your life purpose – because YOLO! And when you do, I’d love to hear about it in our comments.


Wednesday 10 July 2013

Eating By Design at a Restaurant?! It IS Possible!


Vacations are awesome, but they can be one of the hardest times to stay on track with a By Design lifestyle. I was away this month in Nova Scotia. As always, we did our best to Eat By Design while on the go. It was really hard to find anything easily portable that was good for our bodies. Not having a fridge or kitchen to prepare food for the day is a frustrating prospect when you want to be fueling optimally.

The fast food industry just isn’t real food friendly. The limited options are usually over priced, low quality and all around disappointing.  For this reason, we found ourselves eating at sit down restaurants and diners and skipping the fast food scene altogether. It takes a bit of extra time and money but it was worth it to stay on track and have great energy to enjoy our trip to the fullest.

Eating out at home, in Toronto, is a lot easier now that I have been Eating By Design for years. I have accumulated a rolodex in my mind of the places where I know I can go and get the quality food that I want to put in my body. There are also certain chain restaurants that I know have a couple of go-to items that I like to eat. When I am out of town I tend to look for those restaurants. This trip presented a little bit of extra challenge because in small town Cape Breton there is mostly family run operations. Completely unexplored restaurant territory.

In this situation, there is only one thing you can do if you want to stay on track. You have to ask questions, sometimes lots of questions.

If you remember anything from this blog I hope it is this:
Never assume that what you are eating at a restaurant is on track until you ask about the ingredients.

If you genuinely care about what you are using to fuel your body you need to be curious about your food.

The following are guidelines that I have developed for myself to use anytime I am eating at a new restaurant.

Always question soup.
Soups are often thickened with cornstarch or flour. The traditional way of preparing a creamy soup is to use a ‘roux’ to thicken it. A roux is a mixture of fat (usually butter) and flour. It serves to thicken and also stabilize the soup to keep it from separating. If you are dining on a lovely bisque or cream of tomato soup, chances are that perfect texture is due to flour. Now you know to be wary.

Always question thick gravies or creamy sauces.
The same techniques used for thickening soups apply to sauces — liberal measures of flour and cornstarch.

Always question anything that is fried.
Almost all fried food is battered, breaded or ‘dusted’ in flour. Plus most places fry everything in canola, soy, safflower or peanut oils. These oils are engineered to be great for cooking at high temperatures without burning. This quality is great for the food industry but not great for your body. Even pan-fried items are typically cooked in vegetable oils.
Extra tip: Anything labeled ‘crispy’ has more than likely spent time in a deep fryer.

Always question burgers, sausages, meatballs, meat loaf and fish cakes or crab cakes.
These items almost always have flour or bread crumbs holding them together. This rule holds true for packaged items from the grocery store. Be suspicious and check the labels.

Always question stir-fry sauce.
Stir-fry sauces often contain soy sauce. Soy sauce is made from wheat. Even if they don’t specifically say they use soy sauce, they may use oyster sauce, teriyaki sauce or hoisin sauce ALL of which contain soy sauce also known as tamari.  

Always question salads.
Healthy sounding salads may come garnished with croutons, crackers, corn chips or crispy noodles that will grain-up your salad when they are mixed in. In addition, almost all commercial salad dressings contain canola oil. I challenge you to find one at your local grocery store that doesn’t contain canola oil. It will be like the hardest game of ‘Where’s Waldo’ you have ever played.

I don’t want to discourage you with all of this information. There are many restaurant meals that contain only fresh, delicious real foods. You just need to know what to look for and the things to ask to be sure. No one is going to monitor what is going into your body except you.

After a number of years spent working in restaurants, I know that your best bet is to ask the server to check with the chef/kitchen staff.

Well-meaning servers sometimes think that they know the answers without having intimate knowledge of the preparation methods for some of the dishes.

Trust me, asking them to double check with the kitchen is much easier for you and them than sending back dish that you won’t eat.

Indicating that you have a wheat allergy can be useful. Most restaurants have protocols surrounding how they handle allergy meals that will ensure they are circumspect with your food. For instance, if you ask for no croutons and they accidentally get put on your salad. A non-allergy plate will probably just have the croutons picked off. An allergy plate, on the other hand, will get remade to ensure there was no wheat touching your food. An added bonus is that for some reason people tend to be more accommodating when it comes to modifying dishes if its for an allergy versus you seeming like a picky eater.
Lastly, to avoid unhealthy refined vegetable oils, you can ask for your food to be pain fried in butter or olive oil only. For salads, ask for a bottle of olive oil and balsamic vinegar or lemons instead of the premade dressing.

Only you can decide what lengths you are willing to go to for a clean, on track meal. Sometimes you might decide to take the ‘ignorance is bliss’ option or opt to knowingly have an off track meal.

However, when you do want to stay on track, we hope these guidelines will help you to eat like a By Design pro whenever and wherever you are dining!